This ONE Thing Will Determine Your Success: Core Values
Core Values… Do you know yours?
Because you have them, whether you know it or not. And they will dictate your success.
So if you’re wanting to create the life of your dreams and start living fully…
Leave your 9-5, and totally replace (and grow!) your income working for yourself
Travel the world, see the sights, go on the amazing retreats… all in luxury. (Anyone else craving a romantic getaway right about now???)
Attend the spiritual retreats that rejuvenate your soul and lift you higher and higher
Put your kids into the private school and have funds for their college education (I’m all about creating that inter-generational wealth)
…You’d better get clear about your core values!
Why Are Core Values So Important?
Your core values are what guide all of your decisions, influence how you show up, and can determine what actions you take towards your goals (and how effective they are at getting you there). THAT’S why they determine your success.
They also make life incredibly easy when you are clear about them and live in alignment with them.
Let’s take a look at my life before I knew my core values. It was… challenging, to say the least.
I had a BFF for years - one that I talked with everyday. Like, hours back and forth leaving voice notes everyday. And over time, I started to notice that she would get really upset about things that I had a complete opposite view of: Going on a crazy rant about someone we knew presenting as gender-neutral (trans rights are human rights, y’all. Period.), being entitled to my time and getting upset at me not messaging her back right away when I truly wasn’t available, and then getting sucked into wild conspiracy theories and totally would have stormed the capital on Jan 6th if she had been in DC.
It was just too much for me. And I had known it for over a year.
So WHY did I stay in touch with her and continue to give her hours of my time, energy, wisdom every DAY?
Because I wasn’t clear about my core values. And because of that, I didn’t know where my boundaries were. I didn’t know what was important to me, and therefore couldn’t advocate for it.
With the help of a coach I was working with, I finally pulled the plug. I let her know that I had to pull back from our friendship, at least for a while. And her response was exactly what I was hoping she wouldn’t do, but deep down knew she was going to: attack me.
So, I knew I had to pull back from our friendship for good.
I was navigating the process of uncovering my core values. And I finally felt like I was honoring ME.
How Core Values Can Lead You RIGHT To Your Success
Having clear core values goes beyond just having healthy boundaries in relationships. It walks you down the path of your success in ALL areas of your life.
This is because knowing your core values is about knowing who you are and how you want to show up in the world.
Here are some examples of how core values change everything in different areas of your life:
Spirituality: My Relationship with Spirit
Without core values: I rely on others to tell me what spirituality is and means. I have tried every spiritual path in the book, and always seem to feel like they don’t quite get to the heart of things. I also have never liked having someone tell me what is “truth”, but I don’t feel like I even know what questions to ask. I know there is more to life spiritually, but I don’t know how to find it.
With core values: I have a powerful connection with Spirit in my everyday life. I can tap into the Divinity within me to manifest anything I want. I know my Divine Purpose and regularly practice mindfulness. I live in a state of Divine Grace.
Psychology: My Relationship with Myself
Without core values: I made some decisions that seemed right at the time, but then turned out really bad. I have a hard time trusting myself, and look to others for reassurance. I wish I was different and don’t always like who I am, but don’t know how to change.
With core values: I know who I am, what my needs are (and how to meet them), and I like the trajectory my life is going in. I know that regardless of the challenge, I am resourced enough within me that I can move through it with grace and dignity. I am grounded in my body, have self-worth, and enjoy learning and growing (even through challenges or discomfort). I love being me.
Sovereignty: My Relationship with Others
Without core values: Setting boundaries are really difficult for me. I have a hard time saying “no” or advocating for myself. I am afraid of people not liking me, and because of that I stay in relationships - friends, partners, work, etc - that don’t feel good to me. Sometimes I want to hide, and sometimes I blow up at people. Either way, I always feel guilty or ashamed. I am constantly worrying about others liking me and making them happy. But what about me?
With core values: I feel empowered in my relationships - not because I never have conflict - but because I know how to navigate it by honoring myself AND the other person in the process. I feel inherently loved and worthy, and therefore not afraid of others not seeing that within me or leaving me. I have clear boundaries around what I am willing to participate in within a relationship, and what I’m not. I am discerning about who I let in my life because I know the quality of my relationships matter to my success and overall quality of life.
Self-Actualization: My Relationship with My Potential
Without core values: I know there is more for me in life, but I have no clue on how to get it. I have settled for a mediocre life because that’s all I know how to create. After all, it’s good enough, and I should be grateful for what I have, right? A huge part of me feels empty because I know I’m not reaching my potential, despite trying everything I know. I guess I wasn’t meant to live a powerful life like I see others doing. I feel like life is happening to me.
With core values: I am clear about my Divine Purpose, and I know how to create the meaning, fulfillment, and freedom we all seek in life. I focus on growing as a person and taking a leadership role in my own life. I am clear that the habits I engage in everyday will take me where I want to go and help me become a high achiever. I am excited about the projects I invest my time in, and I know that my external success (wealth, freedom, travel, etc) are a reflection of my inner state of being.
Taking Stock and Making the Choice
Which voices from those examples resonated with you?
Which ones do you hear within you now?
Which ones do you WANT to hear in your life?
The good news is that you don’t have to go through the hard and arduous task of uncovering your core values through conflict, challenge, and over the span of years like I did.
There is a simple process that I can guide you through to not only get CLEAR about them, but learn how to live in ALIGNMENT with them!
This is one of the fundamental processes that I take my mentorship clients through. I have developed this methodology through years of working with it, and finally understanding the step by step process to knowing and living by my core values.
I even have them written on a poster and hanging in my home - THAT’S how important they are in my life!
So if you are ready to start seeing the massive changes in your life - in ALL areas - and experience the inner and outer transformation that can come from living by your core values, join me in the Art of Authentic Confidence private mentorship.
In this 1:1 mentorship, I help you understand exactly WHAT your core values are, WHY they are so critical to your success, HOW to live by them, and INTEGRATE them into your life and your identity. All while holding your hand and walking you through every step of the way.
The 12-week Art of Authentic Confidence helps you transform your life from the inside out. Living by your core values is just one small part of the picture of your amazing, powerful life.
